Love for Life in the Lives of Arthur Rubinstein and Alexander Lowen
I have found that if you love life, life will love you back … People are always setting conditions for happiness … I love life without condition. Of course there is no formula for success except perhaps an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.
– Arthur Rubinstein
It may be uncanny to compare two men who from their profession were so different, one having been a phenomenal pianist and the other an outstanding psychiatrist. But of course, this doesn’t say all about them. And in addition there is well something that they had in common; they were namely the only celebrities of the 20th century who publicly promoted the notion ‘Love for Life’ as something like a life paradigm, and they both were real lovers of life. And they have more in common.
They both surpassed the age of 90. Rubinstein died peacefully at age 95, actually during sleep, and Lowen died at age 97. Both men were rarely ever sick and Rubinstein was a heavy wine drinker and cigar smoker, and yet his health and vitality were never impaired. At age 90, he would give concerts with the same vitality that was known to be his personal charisma, and without needing a musical score for performance, as his memory, still at that age, was phenomenal.
Then, when you look at their lives, you become aware that both had to deal with hardships. Rubinstein, as a child, was experiencing the painful bankruptcy of his father who was a businessman, and the resulting poverty of his family. When he was 20, because of his grandiose lifestyle, he had a harsh financial downfall and wanted to suicide himself. He was trying to hang himself in his hotel room but the rope broke and he was saved. He reports in an interview that after that, he was dedicating himself to life, in a sense to love life unconditionally. Then he experienced the miracle that life was loving him back and he had one success after another.
Alexander Lowen had a quite ordinary childhood, and got on the wrong track professionally. He studied law and business administration and after receiving his degrees, suffered from a neurosis that spoilt his life. Taking a psychotherapy with Wilhelm Reich, he was healed from that neurosis and dedicated his life to psychiatry. He studied again and brilliantly succeeded as a psychiatrist. As Rubinstein became in the view of some the greatest pianist of the 20th century, Lowen became the ever most famous psychiatrist of the 20th century.
I think we can safely assume that both men had gone through a phase of negativity in their youth but passed it with a renewed self-image, and from that moment began to love life unconditionally.
Arthur Rubinstein once answered to a rumor that in his younger years he loved wine, women and cigars: ‘No, this is not true. I was thinking of women 98% of the time.’ While this may be a bit exaggerated, he wanted to express that he adores women. He also is quoted to have said that playing piano is like making love, and in an interview he responded to that, explaining he meant that the secret of his tone is the sensuality of his touch.
On the other hand, Alexander Lowen focused his therapeutic approach on the healing of sexual dysfunctions by using an approach that involves the bioenergy. He was famed to have talked very openly about making love, and was actually teaching it. For him it was obvious from his research on love and orgasm that a life, even in old age, without satisfying sexual love relations cannot be happy. As a result, he devoted himself to helping couples achieve pleasure in physical love-making that is as much as possible free of sadism and asexual drives.
So part these great men’s Love for Life was Love for Love. If you put love first in your life, love will put you first in that you will attract what you need for a fulfilled love life whatever your attraction is. Why is that so? Love is a cosmic force and actually the creator force in the universe. If this force works for you, you are aligned with all-that-is and you will be blessed.
Last not least, when you love life, you will see that all hurdles and hassles you are going through have a meaning, in that they help you to develop greater perfection and greater command to regulate your life positively and for the ultimate benefit not only of yourself and those close to you, but also for the benefit of humanity.