We all need to shorten the distance between our ego and our (higher) self, until both coincide, or the ego dissolves within the self. According to psychologist Carl Jung, this journey to the self is a longissima via, a very long path to follow, that in many cases goes beyond one single lifetime. Whatever time you need, it is important that you start this journey as soon as you can by becoming an individual!
To begin with, you need to build autonomy for achieving independence, and independence is the starting point for building interdependence. For all great success in life, you need to be interdependent with others.